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How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People Like You.

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

- Dale Carnegie

Reflection: This rule is saying that in order for someone or something to have a lot of friends you need to be interested in the person or thing you are trying to befriend. Such as asking questions, also to be very welcoming to one. Trying to be very open minded towards the person’s thoughts or feelings. If you are the opposite you will lack friends and or lack social skills. If you do the opposite of what the book tells you to do, you will not have success in having or finding friends because you will not be able to withstand the person or yourself.

Rule 3: remember names

"A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language"— Author Unknown

"If you don’t remember names you are headed for trouble." — Author Unknown

“Words have meaning and names have power.” — Author Unknown

Remembering a person's name is something everyone should do when they meet someone knew. It shows that they are forgettable and made an impression on you. You should also remember their name so you could be able to call them or talk to someone else about them. To apply this to myself I will practice saying a person's name several times and make sure to connect their face to their name. 
Tips: You can remember names by spelling it out, associate with that person, meet and repeat, and choosing to care.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."- Unknown

"It takes a great man to be a good listener." - Calvin Coolidge

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems"

Reflection: To be a good listener you need to be interested in the person rather than talk just about yourself. You need to make the person understand that you want to know them for who they are and you want to learn more about them and their past life. To be a good listener you need to be very open in opinions and in thoughts or ideas of the other persons beliefs or ideas. You cannot be negative towards the person because that is when the other doesn't feel comfortable with you or being around you. In order to make friends you need to be very heartfelt and welcoming.

rule 5: talk in items of the other person's interest

"the royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”

-Bryant H. McGill

I believe this is important to communicate with others because you want the other person to feel important. but i believe you cant force interest in others, if you dont care about what they have to say why are you even speaking to them. you need to make sure youre showing interest because you actually do care. dont waste youre time trying to be someone youre not. although, you do need to be respectful to people that want to talk to you.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.

"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."

- John Dewey

"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic’

- John Dewey

"Love is when the other person's hapiness is more important than your own."

- H. Jackson Brown, Jr

Reflection: In order to befriend someone you need to set all your attention to them. Such like making them feel important. To be very interested in the other person as in what they like and what they don't like . To be interested in there behavior and how they act. To make them feel better about themselve. Also to have a positive attitude towards rather than having a negative one.

Reflection:

The ways to make people like you is a very important set of rules because it changes the way you are as a person. You become a better person. Also you communicate way better to others rather than being shy. You become a better care giver. Tend to be very caring to others and about yourself. Then become very open minded to others their opinions. The ways to make people like you will be implied in my life because it will help communicate with others and to help me not be very shy. I feel like these 6 ways can really improve my communication skills. its also a good way to advance in the professional world such as a work environment. when i want to establish a connection with a client or coworker i can use these skills to help me. i will commit to using these skills more often so it becomes a natural habit/ second nature. making everyone feel important and genuinely caring for them is very important in a friendship.

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"the six attitudes of high achievers"  john noe

1. make no small plans

"Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will not die, but long after we are gone be a living thing, asserting itself with ever-growing insistence."

-Daniel Burnham

Plan ahead of time and set goals. making plans that are long term to keep you in the right path. the picture says chapter one because the book has more than one chapter and in life there is more than one moment. it continues on and on. so your goals should never end. people never thought a man would be in the moon but now were trying to land on mars. to apply this new attitude to me i will read my life planning boook everyday for 5 minutes and add to it.

2. Do what they fear

"The key to change... is to let go of fear."

-Roseanne Cash

conquering your fears is the best way to live life. you cant stop yourself because you're afraid of something. someone once said "fears stop more people from accomplishment than failure its self". meaning if you fail nothing can happen but get back up and try again. accomplishing your fear also grants you a feeling of success and overwhelming gratefullness for yourself. you will feel so much better after you face it. in order for me to face my own fears i will challenge myself everyday to do something i would never regularly do.

3. Are willing to prepare

"By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail."

 -Benjamin Franklin

I will be prepared in life. I also will be prepared in my goals in order to surpass them. Never will I be lazy towards my life. I will never be lazy towards my goals.

Reflection: To be prepared is to have confidence in what you doing. To be positive in your goals and to not quit in your goals. To always know what you're going to do in the future and the present. To never let yourself down. Always be in order to what you want to do. Never be disorganized in your way of life.

4. Are willing to risk failure

"I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying."

- Michael Jordan

I will add this to my daily life by trying and repeating as much as I can for as long until I get it right. I will never give up nor will I give up on someone else.

In order to fail you need to at least try it. In order to try what you want to exceed, you need to be ready in failure and in disappointment. If you fail, you will learn from your mistakes and from others mistakes. As in you will see where you did wrong and you will try to fix it in any way to see if you can do better next time. Everyone should be ready to fail because not everybody is perfect and someway you will make a mistake either by accident or on purpose.

5. are teachable

“What I believe is that all clear-minded people should remain two things throughout their lifetimes: Curious and teachable.”

― Roger Ebert

What the quote means about curios is that you always have questions to be answered and desire to answer them. when you have desire to learn something you look for resources and search for answers. you're willing to be guided by someone. when you're teachable it means you're open to new ideas. being teachable is a good quality because you're open to not always being right and can take criticism in a right way. you move up and improve,

6. have heart

"Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts."

A person has a heart meaning they are kind. this quote means that she hopes to be happy and that her happiness can scatter more happiness. she call smiles rich because they are the most valuable things in life. everyone should be kind and give back when they are in a higher level. they should always remember their beginnings. people that have a heart are very kind and remember about others. they help those that need help even when they dont ask for it. this is an important quality to have. i want to have this quality so therefor i want to become less vain.

The 6 attitudes of a high achiever shouldnt just be for "high achievers" all students should have this attitude about learning and life in general. there is never an end to education you will always be learning subconciously or conciously, whether it be a new job or raising a kid. we should always be open minded, teachable, kind, and out going.

9 ways

            9 ways to be happy and make something of your life.       

1. Be grateful

Understanding first that everything you've got in your life and everything life has given you is truly something to be grateful for, some don't have what you have or simply weren't lucky to be in your stable position in life, therefore appreciate everything try looking at what you have and realize how or why you got them, be grateful for life , because you have woken to see another day , thank does who raised you and loved you because there's someone out there who is growing without that feeling, there's someone out there who is going through life solo. Appreciate the little things, you have the fundamentals to be great what you have is enough. Hustle and appreciate. 

2. Be Smart

Reflection: We need to be smart so were are not taking advantage of. It  is also good to be smart because if we are smart we have a better chance at understanding something that other people are still not able to understand. Being smart not only means be book smart but also street smart which means we know how the people on the streets act and the places to avoid. They also say that the difference between a smart person and a dumb person the smart person will see there mistake and change because of it and a dumb person will always make that same mistake.

            Quote: "It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer."

3. be involved in good works

The best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today.

-Elbert Hubbard

This quote represents being involved in good works. this is because, doing good today and you'll do good the next. it will become a habit. but its a good habit not bad. the picture shows to hands holding in a friendly way. they reach out and help each other. help each other choose the right and stay right!

4. Be clean

Reflection: Being clean can be behaving in a certain way. Such as having a clean attitude or having a clean perspective of things. Another way of being clean is having your life in order. An example can be having a straight path to success. Not having a path that is cluttered with confusion. Another way to be clean can be to have a clean way of thinking. Such as being open minded towards things. Or also not being negative towards many things.

          Quote: "What after all, is a halo? It's one more thing to keep clean.

 5. be true

  “Our true self is being who we are.”

- Lailah Gifty Akita

Being true to yourself is a good attribute to have. you should be making cessions for your best interest. Become who you want to be not what they want you to be. You are who you are. You pretending to be some one else isn't you. 

6. be positive

Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.

-Lyndon B. Johnson

Being positive is the best way to live life. Always think about all the good things you have. They will always outweigh the entire negative. Remember it doesn’t matter if the cup is half full or half empty. There’s water in the cup drink it! In other words, take every opportunity you can get. It will be the best thing you can do. To be more positive take 5 minutes every day and think about your loved ones, hobbies, anything you like doing. Staying positive even through the worse situations is the best characteristic.

7. Be Humble

Reflection: To be humble is too be thankful or gracious to others. To be a positive person towards others. To help others if in need. Trying to be a nice person towards others. Going to charity events or recycle things that help the community. Or also to be generous towards others. Also to be polite and respectful towards others.

Quote: "The praise that comes from love does not make us vain, but more humble." - James M. Barrie

One way I can put this in to my daily life is to be humble towards a lot of things. Respect others and have appreciation towards things. To be respectful towards opinions and responses. Then to be more oving and caring than before.

8.Be Still

When everything is moving and shifting, the only way to counteract chaos is stillness. When things feel extraordinary, strive for ordinary. When the surface is wavy, dive deeper for quieter waters.

-Kristin Armstrong

To be still means to be patient and taking your time to understand something. If someone tries to get you angry, be still and calm down and don't let them affect you. Never let your emotions affect you. Be calm, virtuous, understanding, and most importantly, patient. Do not get angry fast, don't let your emotions take over your logical thinking. If someone wants you to wait for something then wait. Letting yourself get aggravated fast makes that person the winner and your the one who lost. Losing your temper over nothing on something so small, is not worth it. Always ask yourself this first: will it affect me in a positive way or a negative way? Will this still affect me tomorrow? Is it worth my time? If you answer no to those questions, back away, take a deep breath and walk away. That is how you will be successful in life. When I get mad, I ask myself if the problem is still there in 24 hours and if it will still affect me. That calms me down, it should be a goal for everyone to think like this. It is one of my life-planning goals to be a person who is so patient that it takes a lot to anger them.

9. Be Prayerful

To be prayerful you need to be gracious about everything. To be thankful for the small things in return. To not be jealous or greedy over small or large things. Never to be rude or irresponsible with someone or something. Also to be a good person overall.

Quote: "Prayer is the key of the morning and the bolt of the evening." - Mahatma Gandhi

Reflection: The 9 ways we have learned have been very helpful in my goals and everyday life. Such as getting a better understanding of people. Also being courteous over others and everyone else. To be thankful for the small things. To be never be evil or seditious towards anything or anyone. Way I will commit the 9 ways to my everyday life is to include them in communicating with others or when I'm by myself.

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Commitment

Commitment: The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.

Quote: " There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something you do it only when its convenient. When you're committed to something you accept no excuses; only results."

Reflection: This quote is try to say that the biggest difference between interest and commitment. Is when you are interested in something only because you can gain something from it. When you are committed to a cause you only want results not anything else.

Ex: passing Mr.Haymore’s class last year

Responsible

Responsible: Having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role. Being the primary cause of something and so able to be blamed or credited for it.

Reflection: This is an attribute every person in the world should have because it makes us better. It makes us better because we learn to care for all the things we have of importance it also shows to always be early to care for a person we may or may not know. An example would be caring for the elderly what if you are not responsible enough and they end up dying because you were careless.

911

911 Memorial

·       The first tower that got hit was the north tower and then came the south tower at 9:03 AM.

·        At 9:59 AM the south tower came down and at 10:28 AM the north tower came down.

·       300 men and women died in the 78 and 84 floor.

·       Everybody was in shock because nobody actually knew what was happening or why it was.

·       People didn't know what to do and they were panicking and some people even started jumping out the towers.

My thoughts are why people did this in the first place. Its actually sad because there was so many innocent people in there that didn’t know what was happening and they died in the towers a lot of people died because all of this that happened that day.

Caring

Caring

Practice of looking after those unable to care for themselves, especially sick and elderly people.

“In what terms should we think of these beings, nonhuman yet possessing so very many human-like characteristics? How should we treat them? Surely we should treat them with the same consideration and kindness as we show to other humans; and as we recognize human rights, so too should we recognize the rights of the great apes? Yes.”

― Jane Goodall

She is caring for animals specially the chimpanzees and the love has grown so much for them enough to start caring for them as if this animals were like us.

Boldness

Boldness

Being daring or courageous. a bold hero. Not hesitating to break the rules of propriety; forward; impudent: He apologized for being so bold as to speak to the emperor.

“Okay I like Connor's boldness for stepping to Aldo like that, but I don't know if he realizes Jose's a wild boy too, he been through worse.”

-MMA Mayhem

Connor has an upcoming fight against jose aldo junior but connor doesn’t realize aldo is a tough opponent connor dares to face him because of his boldness.

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Personal development quote

“A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder.”

-Thomas Carlyle

This quote is true because without making goals in life or anything you do you can never get better or closer to achieve and succeed in life. In life, you only have 2 paths and that is success and failure. You cannot go into only once path your whole life; everyone must succeed and fail in one point in their life. By making goals and constantly working towards that goal or making new ones after 1 is competed is an easy way to keep yourself on track and stir you to success in life. This attribute is key to have because is it critical to having a successful life. In my own life I have a 100+ life planning goals that I constantly work on achieving. 

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Assertiveness

Assertiveness is the attribute of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive.

I've worked very hard at understanding myself, learning to be assertive. I'm past the point where I worry about people liking me.

-Pam Dawber

This quote means not to think too much on how other people see you because loving and knowing yourself is key in life. Pam Dawber expresses this attribute and tells that she is over with what others have to say about her.

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Accountability

Accountability meaning the fact or condition of being responsible.

Accountability breeds response-ability.

-Stephen Covey

This quote meaning the attribute accountability follows up and gives responsibility.