habits

habit 1: be proactive

Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all other habits and that is why it comes first. it says,'I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny, not just a passenger.'

"Recast your current problems into proactive goals."

-Suze Orman

Being proactive means you advance and make good from bad. you don't react to your problem you find a way to make the problem good. a proactive person is responsible and strong. they are people that don't make excuses. they rather solve a problem than stay stuck on it contemplating how it happened. they take their own course. they don't follow any crowd. they are focused and mind their own business. success is what a proactive person aims for. being proactive means you're building your success without relying on anyone else.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

"Control your own destiny or someone else will."

-Jack Welch

This habit is good to have because you stay focused on what your ultimate goal is. When you don't know what you want you just go day by day making decisions that you don't know what they will lead up to. It may not be what you were aiming for or it could happen that you never find out what you were aiming for. So living with a goal, sticking to it, and keeping your vision for what you want in the end is a good habit. Keeping the end in mind is like being given a marshmallow, told that if you wait a while without eating the first marshmallow you will be given a second one. This is anticipated happiness. Which in the end tastes so much better.

habit 3: put first things first

"Organize and execute around priorities."

“A year from now you may wish you had started today.”

 - karen lamb

This habit is about not procrastinating and setting priorities. If someone puts you second. You are not important.By yourself putting someone second, they dont matter to you. The same principle applies to friendships and hobbies. Homework and school, job and all of those should be your number one's. After you’re done with the most important you cuold enjoy free time for having fun or yourself.  Although priorities are first, this shouldnt stop you from caring about yourself. Getting caught up in the craziness of your schedule sucks

habit 4: Think-Win-Win

 “It's the perfect definition of a settlement. Both parties didn't get what they wanted”

-David Greffen

This habit means that you're going to think about the situation and make an even deal or make the situation so that no one looses. this takes a lot of compromise. the quote means that both parties got even halves and since one didn't win the other one didn't. it doesn't mean necessarily that you will win every time it means you will find a middle ground to what you want. compromising with the other person.

Habit 5:

Seek Fist to understand then to be understood

"Diagnose before you prescribe."

This habit is telling us that we must understand what we are doing first before we can be understood. It is also saying that before a person can understand you, you have to understand them first. You can't rush into things without knowing what it is that you are doing then you can be understood by other people who share the same interest as you.

Habit 6:Synergize

"The whole is greater than the sum of its parts."

To synergize is to be able to find new solutions to old problems. It is also a habit that is does not happen on its own but with teamwork and with everybody solving the problems together. It is a great habit to have because you can get more things done with two people than you can just by yourself. It is also the idea that not just one single person can do everything that all tasks are done better when there are a multitude of people working together.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Four Dimensions of Self-Renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual, and Social/Emotional

This is saying to always be on the top of your game to never let yourself rust or decay to always stay ready for a moment’s notice. It is stating that as long as you keep yourself sharpened be it physically or mentally you are going to be fine in life because you will always be prepared for the twist and turns in life.

Reflection

I am willing to try the majority of the seven habits mainly because the habits I am planning on doing do not go against what I believe but the one I will not do are because I believe I can't do them or they go against my own believes. The only exception to this is habit seven since I am willing to do everything except sharping the spiritual aspect of myself. But the ones that I am planning on trying out are mainly going to be done here in school or at home some may even be tried out in public but at a later date since I have confidence issues.

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Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain

"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."

Once someone feels like they are being criticized they will stop looking for advice from you. making someone feel welcomed with you will make them want to talk to you. the keyword is embrace. make someone feel embraced even with all their flaws and extra baggage. in the quote we could see that together we could help each other fly.

“We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another.”

-Luciano De Crescenzo

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

"The big secret in dealing with people"

"One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say."

-Bryant H. McGill

Giving people honest opinions make them want to respect you. they respect honesty and want acceptance from you. like in the quote, people want to be heard and be given back honesty. being untruthful to someone is disrespectful because you're letting them look dumb in front of others. like letting your best friend wear an outfit that is ridiculous instead of telling her the truth. when she finally realizes how dumb she looked she will blame you for letting her look like that and not being truthful.

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.

"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way."

To arouse in the person is to be interested in the other persons wants. To be observant in the person and their liking's. One way to not do this is to be ignorant or only rant on yourself rather than the other person. Also to always be the person who is always interested in the other person you are talking to or talking about. It is always better to bloat about the person rather than yourself.

One way I would put this into my daily life is to apply it to my friends and family and to put it to use everyday. To never be ignorant of others and to never be conceded.

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Christmas Break

What I did during my Christmas break was spend most of my time with my family. I watched many of the football games that had come out on Sunday. I worked on the IDP during the break. I traveled to Texas to be with family. I met many of my family members that I had not seen in a long time. I watched a couple of the new movies that had come out. I always remembered to CTR during the break.

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How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People Like You.

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

- Dale Carnegie

Reflection: This rule is saying that in order for someone or something to have a lot of friends you need to be interested in the person or thing you are trying to befriend. Such as asking questions, also to be very welcoming to one. Trying to be very open minded towards the person’s thoughts or feelings. If you are the opposite you will lack friends and or lack social skills. If you do the opposite of what the book tells you to do, you will not have success in having or finding friends because you will not be able to withstand the person or yourself.

Rule 3: remember names

"A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language"— Author Unknown

"If you don’t remember names you are headed for trouble." — Author Unknown

“Words have meaning and names have power.” — Author Unknown

Remembering a person's name is something everyone should do when they meet someone knew. It shows that they are forgettable and made an impression on you. You should also remember their name so you could be able to call them or talk to someone else about them. To apply this to myself I will practice saying a person's name several times and make sure to connect their face to their name. 
Tips: You can remember names by spelling it out, associate with that person, meet and repeat, and choosing to care.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."- Unknown

"It takes a great man to be a good listener." - Calvin Coolidge

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems"

Reflection: To be a good listener you need to be interested in the person rather than talk just about yourself. You need to make the person understand that you want to know them for who they are and you want to learn more about them and their past life. To be a good listener you need to be very open in opinions and in thoughts or ideas of the other persons beliefs or ideas. You cannot be negative towards the person because that is when the other doesn't feel comfortable with you or being around you. In order to make friends you need to be very heartfelt and welcoming.

rule 5: talk in items of the other person's interest

"the royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”

-Bryant H. McGill

I believe this is important to communicate with others because you want the other person to feel important. but i believe you cant force interest in others, if you dont care about what they have to say why are you even speaking to them. you need to make sure youre showing interest because you actually do care. dont waste youre time trying to be someone youre not. although, you do need to be respectful to people that want to talk to you.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.

"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."

- John Dewey

"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic’

- John Dewey

"Love is when the other person's hapiness is more important than your own."

- H. Jackson Brown, Jr

Reflection: In order to befriend someone you need to set all your attention to them. Such like making them feel important. To be very interested in the other person as in what they like and what they don't like . To be interested in there behavior and how they act. To make them feel better about themselve. Also to have a positive attitude towards rather than having a negative one.

Reflection:

The ways to make people like you is a very important set of rules because it changes the way you are as a person. You become a better person. Also you communicate way better to others rather than being shy. You become a better care giver. Tend to be very caring to others and about yourself. Then become very open minded to others their opinions. The ways to make people like you will be implied in my life because it will help communicate with others and to help me not be very shy. I feel like these 6 ways can really improve my communication skills. its also a good way to advance in the professional world such as a work environment. when i want to establish a connection with a client or coworker i can use these skills to help me. i will commit to using these skills more often so it becomes a natural habit/ second nature. making everyone feel important and genuinely caring for them is very important in a friendship.

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"the six attitudes of high achievers"  john noe

1. make no small plans

"Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will not die, but long after we are gone be a living thing, asserting itself with ever-growing insistence."

-Daniel Burnham

Plan ahead of time and set goals. making plans that are long term to keep you in the right path. the picture says chapter one because the book has more than one chapter and in life there is more than one moment. it continues on and on. so your goals should never end. people never thought a man would be in the moon but now were trying to land on mars. to apply this new attitude to me i will read my life planning boook everyday for 5 minutes and add to it.

2. Do what they fear

"The key to change... is to let go of fear."

-Roseanne Cash

conquering your fears is the best way to live life. you cant stop yourself because you're afraid of something. someone once said "fears stop more people from accomplishment than failure its self". meaning if you fail nothing can happen but get back up and try again. accomplishing your fear also grants you a feeling of success and overwhelming gratefullness for yourself. you will feel so much better after you face it. in order for me to face my own fears i will challenge myself everyday to do something i would never regularly do.

3. Are willing to prepare

"By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail."

 -Benjamin Franklin

I will be prepared in life. I also will be prepared in my goals in order to surpass them. Never will I be lazy towards my life. I will never be lazy towards my goals.

Reflection: To be prepared is to have confidence in what you doing. To be positive in your goals and to not quit in your goals. To always know what you're going to do in the future and the present. To never let yourself down. Always be in order to what you want to do. Never be disorganized in your way of life.

4. Are willing to risk failure

"I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying."

- Michael Jordan

I will add this to my daily life by trying and repeating as much as I can for as long until I get it right. I will never give up nor will I give up on someone else.

In order to fail you need to at least try it. In order to try what you want to exceed, you need to be ready in failure and in disappointment. If you fail, you will learn from your mistakes and from others mistakes. As in you will see where you did wrong and you will try to fix it in any way to see if you can do better next time. Everyone should be ready to fail because not everybody is perfect and someway you will make a mistake either by accident or on purpose.

5. are teachable

“What I believe is that all clear-minded people should remain two things throughout their lifetimes: Curious and teachable.”

― Roger Ebert

What the quote means about curios is that you always have questions to be answered and desire to answer them. when you have desire to learn something you look for resources and search for answers. you're willing to be guided by someone. when you're teachable it means you're open to new ideas. being teachable is a good quality because you're open to not always being right and can take criticism in a right way. you move up and improve,

6. have heart

"Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts."

A person has a heart meaning they are kind. this quote means that she hopes to be happy and that her happiness can scatter more happiness. she call smiles rich because they are the most valuable things in life. everyone should be kind and give back when they are in a higher level. they should always remember their beginnings. people that have a heart are very kind and remember about others. they help those that need help even when they dont ask for it. this is an important quality to have. i want to have this quality so therefor i want to become less vain.

The 6 attitudes of a high achiever shouldnt just be for "high achievers" all students should have this attitude about learning and life in general. there is never an end to education you will always be learning subconciously or conciously, whether it be a new job or raising a kid. we should always be open minded, teachable, kind, and out going.

9 ways

            9 ways to be happy and make something of your life.       

1. Be grateful

Understanding first that everything you've got in your life and everything life has given you is truly something to be grateful for, some don't have what you have or simply weren't lucky to be in your stable position in life, therefore appreciate everything try looking at what you have and realize how or why you got them, be grateful for life , because you have woken to see another day , thank does who raised you and loved you because there's someone out there who is growing without that feeling, there's someone out there who is going through life solo. Appreciate the little things, you have the fundamentals to be great what you have is enough. Hustle and appreciate. 

2. Be Smart

Reflection: We need to be smart so were are not taking advantage of. It  is also good to be smart because if we are smart we have a better chance at understanding something that other people are still not able to understand. Being smart not only means be book smart but also street smart which means we know how the people on the streets act and the places to avoid. They also say that the difference between a smart person and a dumb person the smart person will see there mistake and change because of it and a dumb person will always make that same mistake.

            Quote: "It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer."

3. be involved in good works

The best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today.

-Elbert Hubbard

This quote represents being involved in good works. this is because, doing good today and you'll do good the next. it will become a habit. but its a good habit not bad. the picture shows to hands holding in a friendly way. they reach out and help each other. help each other choose the right and stay right!

4. Be clean

Reflection: Being clean can be behaving in a certain way. Such as having a clean attitude or having a clean perspective of things. Another way of being clean is having your life in order. An example can be having a straight path to success. Not having a path that is cluttered with confusion. Another way to be clean can be to have a clean way of thinking. Such as being open minded towards things. Or also not being negative towards many things.

          Quote: "What after all, is a halo? It's one more thing to keep clean.

 5. be true

  “Our true self is being who we are.”

- Lailah Gifty Akita

Being true to yourself is a good attribute to have. you should be making cessions for your best interest. Become who you want to be not what they want you to be. You are who you are. You pretending to be some one else isn't you. 

6. be positive

Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.

-Lyndon B. Johnson

Being positive is the best way to live life. Always think about all the good things you have. They will always outweigh the entire negative. Remember it doesn’t matter if the cup is half full or half empty. There’s water in the cup drink it! In other words, take every opportunity you can get. It will be the best thing you can do. To be more positive take 5 minutes every day and think about your loved ones, hobbies, anything you like doing. Staying positive even through the worse situations is the best characteristic.

7. Be Humble

Reflection: To be humble is too be thankful or gracious to others. To be a positive person towards others. To help others if in need. Trying to be a nice person towards others. Going to charity events or recycle things that help the community. Or also to be generous towards others. Also to be polite and respectful towards others.

Quote: "The praise that comes from love does not make us vain, but more humble." - James M. Barrie

One way I can put this in to my daily life is to be humble towards a lot of things. Respect others and have appreciation towards things. To be respectful towards opinions and responses. Then to be more oving and caring than before.

8.Be Still

When everything is moving and shifting, the only way to counteract chaos is stillness. When things feel extraordinary, strive for ordinary. When the surface is wavy, dive deeper for quieter waters.

-Kristin Armstrong

To be still means to be patient and taking your time to understand something. If someone tries to get you angry, be still and calm down and don't let them affect you. Never let your emotions affect you. Be calm, virtuous, understanding, and most importantly, patient. Do not get angry fast, don't let your emotions take over your logical thinking. If someone wants you to wait for something then wait. Letting yourself get aggravated fast makes that person the winner and your the one who lost. Losing your temper over nothing on something so small, is not worth it. Always ask yourself this first: will it affect me in a positive way or a negative way? Will this still affect me tomorrow? Is it worth my time? If you answer no to those questions, back away, take a deep breath and walk away. That is how you will be successful in life. When I get mad, I ask myself if the problem is still there in 24 hours and if it will still affect me. That calms me down, it should be a goal for everyone to think like this. It is one of my life-planning goals to be a person who is so patient that it takes a lot to anger them.

9. Be Prayerful

To be prayerful you need to be gracious about everything. To be thankful for the small things in return. To not be jealous or greedy over small or large things. Never to be rude or irresponsible with someone or something. Also to be a good person overall.

Quote: "Prayer is the key of the morning and the bolt of the evening." - Mahatma Gandhi

Reflection: The 9 ways we have learned have been very helpful in my goals and everyday life. Such as getting a better understanding of people. Also being courteous over others and everyone else. To be thankful for the small things. To be never be evil or seditious towards anything or anyone. Way I will commit the 9 ways to my everyday life is to include them in communicating with others or when I'm by myself.

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Commitment

Commitment: The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.

Quote: " There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something you do it only when its convenient. When you're committed to something you accept no excuses; only results."

Reflection: This quote is try to say that the biggest difference between interest and commitment. Is when you are interested in something only because you can gain something from it. When you are committed to a cause you only want results not anything else.

Ex: passing Mr.Haymore’s class last year